‘We either fight really badly or shove everything under the rug and pretend all is well until the next fight. Nothing ever gets resolved. I’m exhausted and unhappy; my self-esteem is in the garbage. But at other times it’s really great and I get confused. I kind of feel crazy…..’
“She gets sarcastic, critical and demanding. I feel like I can never do anything right so eventually I just stop trying and withdraw. Then she gets upset because I don’t communicate with her. Why would I want to communicate with someone who is always putting me down? I just feel I can’t make her happy”
‘He had an affair with another woman and I just don’t know what do to!! We’ve been together for so long and I really thought our marriage was in good shape. Now my world has been turned upside down, everything that I thought was solid is on shaky ground, how can I ever trust him again? ‘
‘I think he’s got a drinking problem but he totally denies it and says I’m just no fun and should lighten up. The truth is that I am not that fun when he’s drinking. I just feel embarrassed and want to crawl under the table or I try to get him to stop drinking. So we don’t do that much together anymore, cause alcohol is always involved. If I’m not nagging, I’m depressed and resentful. If he’d just stop, everything would be fine.’
If you can relate to any of these situations, it might help to know that you are not alone. I have assisted many individuals and couples work through difficult relationship issues such as these.